I’m sure many of you are just like me — going from “working outside of the home Mom” to “teacher of her own kiddos Mom”. Wow — what a difference just one week makes! My family is in the epicenter of it all—Westchester County, NY. While none of us are directly impacted, as of today, by having COVID-19, we feel the weight of this pandemic in ways we couldn’t have imagined a week ago. It’s a strange tug-of-war. We feel the pressures of this virus, while feeling blessed that we are currently virus-free, have one another, our home, food in refrigerator, books and board games on our shelves, and a little fresh air flowing through the kitchen windows.
Sizing Up the Situation
Like many, we spent the weekend trying to better understand the situation so that we could get our groove on and make a plan. Who knew that things could [and would] change in half day increments. With the majority of my spring consulting work rescheduled to a later date due to school closures, I shifted gears and began thinking about what each of my own kiddos would need and want, both in the short and long-term.
Getting Our Groove On
When I’m trying to get my groove on, I start by noodling plans. I write notes, make lists, create bullet points, and doodle along the edges. Most of my lists are unreadable by others — because they are filled with my thinking and emotion strung across the page. This week’s noodling was no different. The ideas were sort of like an advice column to myself— ultimately giving me guidance [and permission] for how I could navigate the transition from Ed Consultant to Teacher Mom for the weeks ahead. Here are some highlights of things I’m reminding myself to consider:
PROFESSIONALLY
Remind myself it’s okay…
To adjust my professional writing schedule a bit — I’ll get it all finished.
To not jump at every online PD opportunity that’s circling about social media this week — it’s overwhelming and kind of makes me feel like I should be doing more than I am already doing. It’s hard to squeeze it all in when I’m are working hard to educate my own kids at home while juggling professional obligations. Sometimes taking a break and clearing the noise is good for the brain and soul.
To not offer up a bunch of online PD for my educator crew — they’ll understand and many are in the same space as me. They will reach out if they need anything because that’s what THINKING PARTNERS do.
To put myfamily first. They need me and I need them.
PERSONALLY
Remind myself to…
Do something kind for my better half. He’s working hard out of the home so that I can work hard in the home.
Focus on all 3 of our kiddos — they each need similar things and they each need different things [all of which might depend on the day]
Spend time across each week creating opportunities for all of us to do things focused on
Our HOME [clean things out, organize, donate]
Our FAMILY [playing games, putting puzzles together, cooking]
Our SELVES [hobbies, passion projects, things that bring us joy]
OTHERS [connecting with friends and family via letters & video]
Making a Plan
As for our at home learning time, well it’s definitely under construction.
For my college freshman, who just started her 2nd semester, that means giving her time and space to process a loss—the loss of coming home and the loss of saying goodbye to new friends [painful]. This also means a time for unpacking all of the college stuff that made its way back home [didn’t we just drop all of that off?] and getting set up for online, distance learning for college level coursework.
For my middle, it’s about figuring out what he needs and wants — and how to get his voice in it all so that he’s invested. It means digging through the bookshelves and finding some of his favorites and being open to all of his interests, even if they don’t particularly inspire me.
For my little, it’s about feeling out his feelings. He’s watched and listened to too much newsfeed and he’s a process-oriented kiddo. This means taking a step back, disconnecting a bit from all of the information, taking stock of all the facts, and honoring the things on his worry list. It’s also about getting his hands and brain busy — he’s a build-it, create-it, design-it kind of kid!
All of this will take time.
What’s Ahead…
Tomorrow my middle and my little launch our learning-at-home together. We plan to start our day with pjs + hot cocoa while we read, write, play Nab-it, and create some Origami. As the day unfolds, we’ll make a new recipe and go outside for a long walk with the Bernedoodle who is ever-so-happy about all of his humans-at-home time!. This is where we’ll start. Who knows where all of this will lead. We’re making the most of these tricky times — feeling thankful for so much along the way!
